tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.comments2011-06-01T08:02:47.231-04:00Cabin ClutterTerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16482297843702190298noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-59822176167633162912011-05-31T11:53:56.251-04:002011-05-31T11:53:56.251-04:00Hey...I'm so glad to find your blog. I have o...Hey...I'm so glad to find your blog. I have one too. Follow me?!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09076360161823987520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-59459695690810406312011-04-10T21:12:34.077-04:002011-04-10T21:12:34.077-04:00nice artwork!....Danielnice artwork!....Daniellearn oil paintinghttp://www.oilpaintingworkshop.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-20485076066750004022011-03-09T16:51:07.618-05:002011-03-09T16:51:07.618-05:00I'm sorry you were upset, Terry. I'm also ...I'm sorry you were upset, Terry. I'm also sorry that this guy did not back off. I think you're right on one level, that he had no bad intentions, and may even have believed that he was being flattering and helpful. It's a lesson to all of us to take our cues from the bereaved person in these situations. As you know, my mom died in May. My dad, at 75, is a sight for sore eyes to the lonely widows market. He was asked out by two women in one day! He did end up going to lunch with one as a friend, but hasn't repeated it; I know that he felt uncomfortable. He said "I already had the best." When he asked me what I thought about him going, I knew that my reaction was very important to him. I know that it is soon, but I also know that he has been lonely; for adult conversation if nothing else. I wouldn't want him to be alone because he thinks he should be, and I know my mom wouldn't either; she said as much. I told him that, of course if she were here we wouldn't be having the discussion; but she is not, and so the decision is his. They were married for fifty years. And so he went, but it wasn't anything like going with her, and so it was disappointing. I think for him, as you said, it was like losing her all over again. Maybe he'll try again at some point; maybe not. What's important is that he knows that, whatever choice he makes, I'm supportive of him. I have private tears also, and would not be thrilled to have a 'girlfriend' for Thanksgiving, for example; but if it happened and he felt right about it I would do my best to adjust. The takeaway is I don't think there is any time frame or any right or wrong, but on the other hand, people have no idea of an individual's time frame; and buffoonish remarks and encounters seem to come with the territory. Please don't mistrust everyone on the basis of this incident. (I know you don't really). You are doing a great job of forging your way through your life and reality as it is now, and you have many good friends and family who make the effort to understand. When that hurt comes, it hurts like HELL, I know.LucyLarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10612361628329231277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-15009948327901407862010-11-24T23:48:49.405-05:002010-11-24T23:48:49.405-05:00maybe you should write it down.. your life with Ke...maybe you should write it down.. your life with Kevin. Start at the beginning. It's a way to remember.. and to give yourself some peace of mind that you won't ever forget. And just to piss off Kevin... Love you, my friend. :-)Tamitha Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10969877850748655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-8952810635228179262010-11-24T13:51:13.770-05:002010-11-24T13:51:13.770-05:00I guess I should share a bit more about myself onc...I guess I should share a bit more about myself once in awhile too. That's harder :)Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16482297843702190298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-33939570577135299842010-11-24T11:15:52.309-05:002010-11-24T11:15:52.309-05:00Terry, I do love reading your blog. I know, for y...Terry, I do love reading your blog. I know, for you, this is therapeutic, but for us, looking from the outside in, get to either learn more about you and Kevin, or get reminded of many things about Kevin. <br />Thank you!Rick Colenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-42770108054409101332010-11-24T11:05:35.536-05:002010-11-24T11:05:35.536-05:00Terry, I love it! Great story. I would say I am ...Terry, I love it! Great story. I would say I am said I missed it, but... sounds like a bit yucky LOLRick Colenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-5136068762082820102010-11-23T13:20:57.258-05:002010-11-23T13:20:57.258-05:00This poem is probably one of the most beautiful I ...This poem is probably one of the most beautiful I have read or heard. It touches anyone that has ever lost someone. For we do, we carry all of them in our hearts.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16482297843702190298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-74433490551198437462010-11-17T13:52:39.911-05:002010-11-17T13:52:39.911-05:00Excellent story Terry, Don't feel bad, I'v...Excellent story Terry, Don't feel bad, I've known women who didn't ralize they had to take the bag of stuff out of a store bought turkey.timnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-48064132663109898942010-11-05T19:52:57.533-04:002010-11-05T19:52:57.533-04:00After I sent you the email I remembered your blog ...After I sent you the email I remembered your blog page and that I hadn't read it for some time, so I checked in.....once again another very beautiful job of putting so much of you together with 'words' and making a really great read. <br /> MindyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-81716023411361663302010-08-26T17:43:25.515-04:002010-08-26T17:43:25.515-04:00Perfect.Perfect.Tamitha Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10969877850748655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-21741341599910463322010-08-14T07:23:16.558-04:002010-08-14T07:23:16.558-04:00All That i have To say, I will tell you in a few D...All That i have To say, I will tell you in a few Days when I see you. <br /><br /><br />Love, <br />ChalanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-66110634290881869442010-08-14T06:09:59.499-04:002010-08-14T06:09:59.499-04:00Simply lovely. I wish I knew Kevin. Hugs, Terry.Simply lovely. I wish I knew Kevin. Hugs, Terry.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03860468639494364477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-51997353442160138052010-08-14T05:26:15.381-04:002010-08-14T05:26:15.381-04:00Terry, I am so glad you were able to put into word...Terry, I am so glad you were able to put into words, what was running through your head. I know it is good to get the words out of your head, but it is also good for us to see Kevin through your eyes, as you were there, through the hard times, the good times, and the bad times. <br /><br />It really helped me as well, as I have recently wondered why he did not change, knowing the eventual outcome, and your words really made me realize why, as you realized. It just would not have been Kevin. <br /><br />I do hope that you keep writing, and keep reminding us, on facebook or in email, to read the blog, as much as it is therapeutic for you to write it, is as much therapeutic for us to read it, and see these things as well.Rick Colehttp://www.jennrick.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-39168226696795208212010-08-09T15:04:19.171-04:002010-08-09T15:04:19.171-04:00Terry, I am sorry I did not keep up reading your B...Terry, I am sorry I did not keep up reading your Blog till today. I did miss your July posts. I agree wholeheartedly with your comment not caring about "HER feelings". Some people are just that shallow that no matter what is happening, it is all about them. <br /><br />Sad life, to be honest, for them.<br /><br />If I did not want to see the bad times, that may change my view on how I 'remember them', well, you nailed it, I would have to stay in my cocoon. <br /><br />I want to help others, and if it gives me a new perspective, so be it! The more new perspectives that I get, the more I want to help othersRick Colenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-83244004759797627582010-08-03T08:48:25.380-04:002010-08-03T08:48:25.380-04:00Terry, I am so deeply sorry to hear about Kevin!!!...Terry, I am so deeply sorry to hear about Kevin!!! I haven't been on your blog in a long time. In reading about this "friend", it reminds me of long, long ago when I lost two babies, two years in a row that were full term. People avoided me. They were very uncomfortable around me and I felt even more alone because of their discomfort. People are odd when it is uncomfortable for them as in your "friend's" case. She was being selfish and she didn't probably realize how she was hurting you by it. I am so sorry. If I can do anything, please let me know.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03860468639494364477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-33441666845172685162010-07-29T15:14:04.561-04:002010-07-29T15:14:04.561-04:00I am glad Hospice is in... and I know it's a h...I am glad Hospice is in... and I know it's a hard decision. The will help. I am thinking of you both. I wish I could get out there more. Please let me know when is a good time for you and I'll be there. Obviously Monday won't work for me because of all the crap I have to do that day.. but whenever other than that. I love you both. Please let Kevin know I said so as well. Morgan made him a little braided bracelet last night.. but don't tell her I told you. See you soon.Tamitha Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10969877850748655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-64841272638840881882010-03-07T01:22:38.944-05:002010-03-07T01:22:38.944-05:00I miss you. Lots. Message me when I can make it up...I miss you. Lots. Message me when I can make it up your driveway. Love ya, friend. <br /><br />-TammyTamitha Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10969877850748655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-19538185421224773112009-07-18T09:03:14.675-04:002009-07-18T09:03:14.675-04:00Oh my God your lucky - Thank God you werent hit! ...Oh my God your lucky - Thank God you werent hit! We had a a couple kids down here 2 or 3 yrs ago get hit - it hit the oldest boy and went down through the ground and hit the boy next to him which was probably I think about 5 ft from where he was. Killed the one boy and critically injured his brother - Then my cousin Kathys daughter was hit when she was little in the chest by lightning but she survived.Trudyhttp://facebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-91280011876721686142009-07-15T02:44:50.421-04:002009-07-15T02:44:50.421-04:00That's scary!! I'm glad you didn't get...That's scary!! I'm glad you didn't get hurt!Tyttinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-85495045552107008832009-07-01T22:16:03.155-04:002009-07-01T22:16:03.155-04:00I'm loving the mask...I'm loving the mask...tammy thomashttp://www.myspace.com/teemarie7noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-46817741276751294642009-07-01T22:09:21.642-04:002009-07-01T22:09:21.642-04:00pretty prettypretty prettyTammy Thomashttp://www.myspace.com/teemarie7noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-38814745299400725742009-07-01T13:29:51.686-04:002009-07-01T13:29:51.686-04:00I'm glad you decided to start a blog :)I'm glad you decided to start a blog :)Ateljee AnnaStinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06334675359156800140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-25617708536441074092009-06-19T12:07:04.831-04:002009-06-19T12:07:04.831-04:00Thank you! I have a feeling we were brought toget...Thank you! I have a feeling we were brought together for a reason!Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16482297843702190298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5790031963297830285.post-58732104239334817752009-06-18T18:31:21.116-04:002009-06-18T18:31:21.116-04:00I am so glad you started a blog, I know it will be...I am so glad you started a blog, I know it will be successful! Show off your art, your a wonderful artist, and tell your stories. (((Hugs)))Moonwillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03630375909153837634noreply@blogger.com